Premature ejaculation

What is it?

Put simply it's when a man "comes" too quickly. This is one of the most common sexual problems. A recent survey of British males found that it affects around 10% of the population. It is commoner in younger men than older men as men learn to control themselves better as they get older, but middle aged men do still get this problem.

Does it matter?

PE can make the sufferer unhappy and frustrated. It can be devastating for a man's self-confidence, and it can be hugely frustrating and annoying for his partner, too. In severe cases it can threaten or even ruin a relationship because it spoils the sex lives of both partners.

What causes it?

The cause is still under debate, some experts say that premature ejaculation is caused by early 'conditioning'. due to the man's early, rushed sexual experiences Some believe it could be inherited rather than learned. From an evolutionary point of view, males who climaxed quickly were more likely to have children.

However there's no question that anxiety or 'nerves' plays a part in many cases of PE. If you're nervous, you're more likely to come too quickly.

How can hypnotherapy / NLP help?

Hypnotherapy and NLP can help by teaching the client how to control excitement without effecting their erection, and how to sustain performance until a time when they want to ejaculate. It teaches the client to be in control again.

Erectile Dysfunction

What is it?

Erectile dysfunction is the repeated inability to get or keep an erection firm enough for sexual intercourse. Erectile dysfunction can effect men in different ways. In could mean a total inability to achieve erection, or an inconsistent ability to do so, or a tendency to sustain only brief erections.

Why does this happen?

For a number of different reasons. Physical causes, such as disease, injury, or side effects of drugs. Incidence increase with age. The main problem can be nerves or pressure to perform. It could also be because of a lack of self confidence. If this problem happened once, the next time you feel worried about it happening again, and ths worry affects your performance and this becomes a reptitive cycle.

How is it treated?

There are a number of medical conditions and medication that can be causing this so get checked out with your doctors first. If it's not a medical reason we can then begin treatment. This is done mainly by working on your self esteem and self perception. Once these are improved you become more relaxed and able to sustain erection.

If you are locked into a repetitive cycle of behaviour the therapist works finding when the problem began and breaking the patterns of behaviour. NLP and hypnotherapy can make a huge difference to the life of the sufferer, our therapists have seen a huge improvement in the lives of the people they have treated. They have successfully treated people who have felt like they had no one else to turn to.

Our therapists

Emma James MANLP, MATLT, MAHYP, Dip FTST, IIHTT is a leading personal therapist, a certified master practioner in NLP, Hypnosis and Time Line Therapy. For more details click here.

Rue Dobson Dip Psy/Phil Dip Couns Dip Clin Hyp MBACP MBSCH has been studying pyschology for over 17 years. He is qualified in person centered counselling and clinical hypnotherapy. For more details click here.

Brian McHugh Certified NLP Master Practitioner has been using his NLP and coaching skills to help people make the positive changes that they know will improve their quality of life. For more details click here.